Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Today is my bday...and I wish you are with me

Diego, no sabes cuanta falta me haces. Fueron casi 5 meses que te tuve conmigo pero fueron suficiente para amarte como a nadie. Nunca pense que el amor de madre pueda ser tan fuerte hijo mio. Daria mi vida por tenerte aqui a mi lado, mirandome a los ojos. Hoy es mi cumpleanios y lo unico que quiero es decirte que te extrano hijo. Te extrano mucho bebe. Ojala me estes viendo y sepas que no hay ni un dia que no piense en ti. Besos mi amor.
Tu mama

Sunday, July 8, 2012

One month since you are gone

Since yesterday I did not stop crying and I know why. Today it has been a month since you are gone. My dear baby you know how much I miss you. I know you are watching us, and I know you also miss us but someday we will meet and we will take care of you like we dreamed.

A day that I will never forget....


On Thursday 06/08/2012 at 01:50 am my baby boy Diego had born dead. He was 19 weeks and 3 days old. He was such a handsome little boy who looks much alike his father although he got my nose. Beautiful long little hands, beautiful lips and big head as his father used to call him. He was just perfect and we were so ready for him.
Everything happened so fast. On Thursday that morning I woke up like any other day, getting ready for work as usual and happy for another day of having my baby with me. That morning I just remember I woke up so thirsty. At work, everything was fine. I was getting ready for lunch and I went to the bathroom and then all of the sudden my water broke. It was amazing how the water started to come out. I just couldn’t believe it. Every footstep was painful since I knew my baby was in risk. My friend at work took me to Hackensack University where my husband was already there. He took me to the second floor where a nurse told me that once my water broke there was nothing that they can get done.
Once in the room, an OB came to see me and I heard saying she felt my baby feet. Immediately, they took me to a private room and I was induced to delivery. I got epidural and anesthesia to relief my back pain and cramps. My legs felt so numb and my head was killing me. Around 1:40 am I felt pressure on my pelvis and I knew I was ready to let my baby go. I didn’t want to do it, I keep telling my husband that our baby was coming and he was nervous and holding my hand trying to calm me down. I didn’t want to see my baby because I was mad and confused. Once I delivered my baby I started to push a bit for release the placenta. Since no all the placenta came out, I was took to a different room to get clean. My doctor was there and he assures everything was OK. Once in the recovery room a nurse showed up and told me if I want to see the baby. My husband went to get me apple juice then I asked the nurse if my baby was born alive. She said NO. In some way I was relief because my baby was not suffering while was born.  Then once my husband came back, I asked the nurse if it was a boy or a girl. She said a beautiful baby boy.
I always knew it was a boy. I got dreams with him but I never want to say something about it because I was afraid. Afraid of cheeriness my pregnancy, afraid of be OK, afraid of something bad happens.
I was hurt but besides the fact I lost my baby, seeing my husband broke in tears just tear my heart apart. I know how much we want our baby boy and it was just unbelievable Diego was not with us anymore. Once I was transferred to the recovering room, the nurse asked me again if I want to see my baby. I asked my husband and he agrees. The nurse brought Diego around 5:30 am. He was brought in a white bassinet. Once the nurse put Diego in my arms, I had a feeling that I will never forget. My son was in front of me, in a deep sleep and there was nothing I can do to waking him up. My husband also carried Diego and he was crying like a baby. We were supposed to cry because he will be with us and not because he was gone. I touch his little hands, his head, his ears, his lips, his eyelids, his nose, and his forehead. He was just perfect for Mommy and Daddy .

My Diego, anywhere you are, please give us the strength we need to keep moving forward. We, “tus papis” will always love you. You will always be our number one.